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7 Things You May Be Letting Pass You By

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This is intended to be in the context of what you’re missing when you’re not living in the “here and now:” the elusive state of being that we’re all lectured on, told tales about the greatness of and yet can rarely seem to accomplish. Here, my friends, are some ideas  that may aide you on that journey. Seven things you may miss if you don’t live in the moment:

1. The love that people are trying to give you. It doesn’t manifest itself and wait around until you’re ready to receive it. Take it today or leave it forever.

People love you. They really, honestly do. It seems like we all spend half of our time painstakingly searching for this great life-changing love when really, love is right in front of our noses. The problem, however, is that as with all things in life, it doesn’t usually look or feel…

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Your Best Friend Is Your Soul Mate

THIS.

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Years ago I met this guy who I was convinced had to be “the one.” He was a six-foot tall graphic designer who had thoughtful tattoos across his arms and on his neck. He was smart and creative. His ears were slightly gauged, he mostly listened to indie dance music and he carried a skateboard. Plus he was a top. These people are like unicorns in the gay world. I was all, OK, now I’m done with dating. Tag — you’re it. But then he confessed that he wasn’t really attracted to black guys sooooo that was that. Hey, sometimes we’re not “the one” for the person we think will take us off the dating market for the rest of our lives and vice versa. Though we never became an item, I have had a few other “ones” since then. But the person I’ve been in a relationship with…

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You’re Not Quite The One

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You’re not quite the one because nothing’s ever happened. You’re in the back of my mind somewhere but our lives have never lined up. We’ve never worked out, not because there isn’t interest — there’s interest, I think — but because the timing’s never been right or the location’s all wrong. You’re not quite the one because we’ve never had the chance to see if you are. Maybe we never will.

You’re not quite the one because you got away. I let you take off in your car or get on that airplane and I chose not to go after you. I put down my sword and beat it into a plowshare. I was not prepared to fight for you. You said, “This is it. I’m gone” and I said, “Good. Good riddance” whether I meant it or not. You’re not quite the one because you left or I left…

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How To Let Go

reference HAHAHA srsly

Insights That Will Get You Through Your 20s (And The Rest Of Your Life)

21 More Dating Truths We Need to Realize

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1. Every rejection isn’t a life-altering setback. If you didn’t get crushed every once in awhile, it wouldn’t mean as much as when it does work out. You need to take the bad with the good, so you can learn from it and be a little wiser next time.

2. People have other priorities that aren’t you. Sometimes when he says he can’t to hang out this week, it doesn’t mean that he’s too busy for you or has forgotten you. It’s that he values other things in his life as much as he values you — like his friends and his family. Personally I like dating someone who has other things going on, but it’s hard sometimes not to take that personally when we live in fear that he’s not into us. Be patient. If he’s into you, he’ll call you after he hangs up with his mom. If…

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The One Person You Never Really Get Over

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There will always be that one person you’ll never really get over. I know, I know, Connie Chung delivering groundbreaking news over here, but it’s true. Sure, you can go days, weeks, months, years without thinking of them but the second you see their face or their name gets mentioned in passing, your stomach drops and you feel like you could puke. You’ve lost control and all of these feelings suddenly rise to the surface to say, “Sup? Have you missed us?’ You’ll hate yourself for this, for all of it. You won’t be able to recognize why this one person can still garner this type of reaction. Why is your mind punking you? It almost feels like a betrayal. You want to give your emotions a stern talking to and say, “Um, hi. I thought we were over this? So why am I getting super nervous and spazzy at…

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You Need To Take Control Of Your Life

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You are a powerful person. No one ever knows what they’re capable of until something happens that forces them to rise to the occasion. And then a natural high starts to wash over their body and they realize that they haven’t been living up to their full potential. They can achieve so much more if they just tap into their inner Sasha Fierce.

It’s easy to go through this life letting bad things happen to us. It’s easy to lay in bed all day, feeling vaguely depressed, picking at the wounds. (You never stop picking scabs. This habit always stays with you.) By giving other people power though, we’re taking it away from ourselves. We’re letting someone come in and twist us violently around their finger. Then we act surprised when, after the closeness fades and the body turns cold, we get upset. We feel empty. We let someone…

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21 Dating Truths We Need To Realize

TRUTH. and for reference hahaha

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1. 95% of the time, they didn’t lose their phone. They didn’t drop in the toilet or the bathtub. It wasn’t shut off. They just didn’t want to text you. If not, why aren’t they Facebooking or tweeting you right now?

2. If you’re looking at someone’s online dating profile and there are multiple people in their photo and you say, “Who is that guy? He’s hot!”, the person will never be that guy. He will always be the person standing next to that guy.

3. No one’s ever “too busy” to hang out with you. Lots of busy people still date. Taylor Swift makes time for a new boyfriend every other day.

4. Everyone is allowed to make the first move. We put so much emphasis on seeming detached and unavailable until the last possible moment, worried we might scare them off by actually seeming interested. What if, heaven…

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16 Reasons He’s Not Asking You Out

omg yes hahahaha

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1. You’re intimidating. Yes, you are. You don’t give him any kind of sign that you’re interested or you give him mixed signals and he is in a state of confusion.

2. He just got out of a bad relationship and he does in fact want to be single for a little while before he gets back in the game.

3. His life is a little too complicated right now and he’s being a good guy and not bringing you into it until he figures a few things out.

4. He thinks that you just see him as just a friend.

5. He sees you as just a friend.

6. He’s moving across the country or abroad in a few months and doesn’t want a long-distance relationship.

7. He is not over his ex.

8. You pretend that you don’t like him. In fact, when he’s around, you act like he doesn’t even exist…

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